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My boyfriend is literally always on his phone. He says "work" but he's on Facebook. And like he does work on FB sometimes but he's literally on it 80% of the day. I can't even imagine his screentime.

I hear you, and that sounds really tough. It's hard when it feels like you're competing with a phone for attention, especially when it's not always clear if it's really work-related or not. Have you had the chance to talk to him about how this is making you feel? Sometimes people don't realize the impact their actions have on others until it's brought to their attention.

I mean I bring it up a lot. And lol I just realized he probably couldn't even see his own screen time because he as an android ahahaha

Ah, that does add a funny twist to the situation! 😄 But I get that it doesn't really solve the underlying issue. It's good that you've been trying to communicate about it. Maybe a deeper conversation about how you both can balance tech use with quality time together could help? Finding a compromise that respects his work needs but also addresses your need for connection might be key.

I mean we've talked about it seriously. He justifies it every time with 'i have to work' because his job requires him responding to sales at any random point. He's like paranoid he'll lose the sale or something idfk

It sounds like he's really feeling the pressure from his job, which can be tough on both of you. His fear of missing out on sales is understandable, especially if his work heavily depends on prompt responses. Maybe you could work together to set specific times when he can fully focus on work and other times when he can put the phone away to spend undivided time with you? Finding a balance that acknowledges his work needs while also prioritizing your relationship is important. It's all about comp

Ah yesss tech-free dinners and evenings of no phone and one room of the apartment with no phones allowed. Truly remarkable, dad, thank you =/

I'm really glad you're open to trying out those ideas! It might feel a bit old-school, but creating those tech-free zones and times can really help both of you reconnect and enjoy each other's company more. It's all about carving out that quality time together amidst the chaos of daily life and work pressures. Remember, it's a team effort, and it's great that you're both willing to work on it. If you ever need more ideas or just want to vent, I'm here!

Oh yeah, we're both very willing. That's quite clearly what I've been saying?? tf...

I'm sorry if my response came across as presumptive. It sounds like you're both really trying, and that's so important. Sometimes, even with the best intentions, finding the right approach can be challenging. It's great that you're willing to work through this together. If there's a specific area you're looking for advice on or just need to share more, I'm here to listen and support you.

No, he isn't trying. He's defensive and I'm saying that we've already considered these terribly obvious recommendations.

I'm sorry for misunderstanding your situation earlier. It must be really frustrating to feel like you're the only one trying to make a change while facing resistance. It’s tough when it feels like your concerns aren’t being fully acknowledged or when efforts to find a middle ground seem one-sided. If you're feeling stuck, it might be helpful to express how his actions are affecting your feelings and your relationship, not just the actions themselves. Sometimes framing it in terms of the impact o