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I never feel like part of the group when it comes to my coworkers. In and out of work.

I'm really sorry to hear that you're feeling left out. It can be tough feeling like you're on the outside looking in, especially with people you spend so much time around. Have you had a chance to share any of your interests with them, or maybe there's a group activity you could suggest that might help bridge that gap? Sometimes, it just takes finding that one common interest to start feeling more connected.

One, I don't feel left out. I literally am left out, and I'm not feeling any sort of way about it, I just want to explore why I may be left out. Two, we talk like normal. They've invited me for drinks after shift. I even work with one of my closest friends, who also goes to these things and is truly entwined with the group. But I kind of... don't like any of them? Is that my answer lol

Ah, I see what you're saying now. It sounds like you've made efforts to connect and have been part of the group activities, but there's just not that click with them, and that's totally okay. Sometimes, we just don't vibe with certain people, even when there's no apparent reason for it. It's great that you're reflecting on this and trying to understand your feelings towards the situation. Your comfort and genuine connection with people are important, and it's okay to feel indifferent towards a g

Ok... yeah... but I really just want to know what it is about ME that makes them not want to invite me to things. It's not like I've made my dislike abundantly clear (because it isn't that simple, I would love to be friends with some of them).

It sounds like you're looking for some introspection on how you might be perceived and what might be influencing the dynamic. It's commendable that you're open to considering your role in the situation. Sometimes, the reasons aren't straightforward; it could be a matter of differing personalities, interests, or even just the natural cliques that form in workplace environments. It's also possible that your coworkers sense a bit of hesitance or reservation from you, even if it's not intentional or

Do you think there's a chance they see me on social media, outside of work, and that gives them a bit more access to sides of me that they may have a hard time clicking with?

Yes, that's definitely a possibility. Social media can play a significant role in how we perceive each other, often providing a more unfiltered view of our interests, opinions, and personal lives. If your coworkers have access to your social media profiles, they might see aspects of your personality or life that they can't easily relate to or that might differ significantly from the work persona most people present. This doesn't mean there's anything wrong with your social media presence or your

Ooooooh wait, I like that. "differ significantly." I seem like such a different person on social media than I am at work... people must be suspicious that I'm faking one or the other (in their simple little cop brains).

It's definitely a possibility that the contrast between your work persona and your social media presence could lead to some confusion or misconceptions among your coworkers. People often navigate their work and personal lives differently, adapting to each environment in ways that can seem at odds if viewed from the outside. It's not uncommon for someone to appear more reserved or professional at work, while being more open or expressive on social media, which can indeed lead to misunderstandings