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I've bought plenty of craft kits in recent years: embroidery, cross-stitch, looms, calligraphy, diamond-painting, puzzles, etc... but I never seem to find time to do them, because they don't feel "productive." They're also not relaxing because I'm not experienced and don't know what I'm doing. I might like the project, in theory, but don't *need* something else to hang on the wall or sit around the house, so I feel like, what's the point? and that my time would be better invested elsewhere. How

It sounds like you're feeling a bit caught between the joy of starting something new and the pressure to make that time feel productive. It's totally understandable to question the purpose behind hobbies, especially when we live in a world that often values productivity over creativity for its own sake. Crafty people often find joy not just in the outcome but in the process itself—the act of creating, the time spent in learning and doing something with their hands, and the mindfulness that come

I'm not sure starting something new really sparks "joy", but I like monotonous tasks that I can do with my hands while I listen to audiobooks. I like the idea of creating things, especially with beginner kits. But it seems like a waste of time to complete a puzzle, only to put it away. Or create a picture only not to hang it up. They're just kits, so they're not really unique-- I'm just following a pattern. Does that change your response?

Not at all; it just sheds more light on what you're feeling. If monotonous tasks bring you comfort and you enjoy the act of creating while listening to audiobooks, that in itself is valuable. It's a form of self-care, allowing you to unwind and engage in something purely for the sake of doing it, without the need for the end product to serve a "purpose" in the traditional sense. Regarding the kits and following patterns, even if you're not creating something unique, you're still engaging in the

That's interesting, I hadn't considered it self-care in that way, since it's not inherently relaxing. I don't know that there's any kind of market for silly beginner kits to be donated or gifted. I also don't know if I enjoy the audiobooks more "deeply", since I'm distracted, but I feel the same way about books. I like to read so that I have something in common with people, to disconnect from the real world, to live another experience even if I don't have something to "show" for it. I suppose ar

Yes, you're absolutely on the right track! The comparison to playing sports in high school or participating in theater without professional aspirations is spot on. These activities offer intrinsic value beyond tangible outcomes—they enrich your life, provide new perspectives, and enhance your well-being through the joy of participation and experience. Your approach to reading for connection, escape, and experience is very much in line with engaging in crafts or any hobby. It's not always about

Respectfully, in regards to donating crafts, I don't think any kind of thrift store or donation store would want these items. You've kind of insisted on it, but it's almost rude and making the clutter someone else's problem. If you're donating to a store, it's absolutely about marketability, otherwise you're leaving them with products that won't sell and take up space. The rest does make sense, though. Do you have any advice for how to fit self-care and crafting into my day and busy schedule, gi

You make a great point about the practical aspects of donating crafted items, and I apologize if that suggestion seemed to overlook the realities of donation and thrift store dynamics. It's important to consider the usefulness and desirability of items before donating, to ensure they find a purposeful place and don't contribute to clutter or burden for others. Let's focus on integrating self-care and crafting into your schedule in a way that's fulfilling and manageable. Fitting self-care and cr

"Scheduling" self-care feels like it's adding another item to my to-do list, quite literally. And I think leaving a project out (not put away) would stress me out about clutter even more, or even cause it to get damaged with pets and children in the house. In regards to crafting while learning, I listen to audiobooks and I couldn't do that while also listening to craft-related podcasts. Since I don't intend on becoming a crafter, those podcasts don't feel useful to me and they're taking audioboo

It sounds like you're juggling quite a bit, and finding a balance that doesn't add to your stress is key. Your points about the challenges of scheduling, managing space, and combining crafting with audiobooks are all valid, especially considering your circumstances. It's important to tailor self-care to fit your life and needs, so it truly serves its purpose of providing relief and enjoyment, not adding more pressure. Given your reflections, it might be worth exploring ways to weave self-care i