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I've been with my boyfriend for 6 years, and want to get married, but he hasn't proposed to me yet. Not sure what he's waiting for.

That sounds really challenging, especially when you're ready to take the next step but it feels like things aren't moving forward. Have you two had open conversations about marriage and your future together? Sometimes bringing it up can help clarify where both of you stand and what expectations you might have.

Yeah, we've talked about it, and earlier on, like 2-3 years into the relationship, he seemed really excited to get married. I just.. I don't want to wait forever but I also don't want to keep bringing it up. I only want to do it if he also wants to, and at this point, I'm not sure.

It's understandable that you're feeling a bit stuck and unsure. It's important that both of you want and are excited about taking that step together. Since it's been a while since those initial conversations, people's feelings and perspectives can evolve over time. It might be helpful to have another heart-to-heart, expressing your feelings and concerns without pressuring him. It's about understanding where he's at now and sharing your own feelings. Remember, it's okay to express what you want a

Do you think he no longer wants to get married?

It's hard to say without knowing more about his thoughts and feelings. Sometimes, delays in taking steps like marriage can be due to a variety of reasons that aren’t about the desire to be married or commitment levels. These can include financial concerns, personal goals, or even fears and uncertainties about marriage itself, not necessarily about the relationship. It’s important to have an open conversation to understand his perspective. Try to approach it with empathy and openness, focusing on

Yeah, he's mentioned how expensive weddings can be, and we've been in a bit of tough spot financially since 4 years ago.. but still, I don't care, it doesn't have to be a big wedding or anything. I just want him to want to get married, and I don't want to be the one to bring it up!

It sounds like the financial aspect might be weighing on him more than you realized, and it's understandable that you want him to initiate the conversation about marriage because it's important to feel that mutual desire to move forward. Since you're open to a simpler celebration, maybe he isn't aware of how flexible you are about the wedding itself. Even though it's tough, sharing your feelings with him about wanting to get married regardless of the wedding size or cost could open up a new dial

Hmm.. maybe I should mention to him that I don't need a big wedding or anything. I'm not totally sure how to do it without being obvious though. And again, it feels bad to be the only one who cares a lot about this.

It's totally understandable to feel that way, and it's clear you care deeply about both your partner's feelings and the future of your relationship. Bringing up your flexibility regarding the wedding might indeed help ease some of the pressure he might be feeling. You could approach the conversation in a casual, non-confrontational way, perhaps by mentioning a story of someone who had a simple yet beautiful wedding, or even hypothetically discussing what kind of small wedding could be nice. This