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My niece just told me that my sister hit her a few times when she was younger. Not just spanking, but like some good slaps (on the head and the arms)....

I'm really sorry to hear that your niece experienced that. It must be incredibly difficult for both of you, especially for her to open up about something so painful. It's important that she feels supported and loved right now. Have you been able to talk more about it with her, or thought about how you might be able to help her through this?

Well that's what's weird, she recounted the stories like I recount my bad days at work.

It sounds like she might be trying to normalize her experiences, which isn't uncommon when people reflect on tough parts of their childhood. It could be her way of coping or trying to understand what happened. It's great that she feels comfortable enough to share these memories with you, though. It might help to gently let her know that you're there for her, ready to listen or help in any way she needs, whenever she's ready to talk more about it or explore her feelings further.

She's literally fine. She requires none of my attention at this point. It would be weird for me to take this so seriously, apparently. But I DO find it to be serious. I think if my sister even found out that I know, she'd stop talking to me entirely (probably out of shame, or something?)

It's completely understandable that you're taking this seriously—it shows how much you care. It's a delicate situation, especially with the potential for tension with your sister. Perhaps for now, the best approach is to offer a supportive presence for your niece, letting her lead the way in how much she wants to discuss or address it. Meanwhile, it might be helpful for you to find a way to process your own feelings about this revelation, perhaps by confiding in a trusted friend or a counselor w

For me to even bring this topic up again, though, would be drawing attention to / catastrophizing it, no? When nobody involved seems to think it's serious? Am I just entering latin american culture here and complaining that children are working and leading stable lives to support their family? Like do I just need to be 50% less prudish?

It's natural to question your response when it seems out of step with those around you, but your feelings and concerns are valid. Cultural norms do influence perceptions of discipline and family dynamics, and what's considered acceptable varies widely around the world. It's important, however, to trust your instincts about what feels right or wrong to you, especially when it comes to the well-being of a family member. You're not necessarily catastrophizing by taking it seriously; you're showin

So it kind of sounds like, from my own ramblings, I need to drop this knowledge of child abuse and continue operating like I never heard anything (while also being intentionally present and supportive of my niece, so she confides in me if it happens again).

That sounds like a thoughtful and balanced approach. Being intentionally present and supportive for your niece is key. It ensures she knows she has someone in her corner, someone she can trust and turn to if she needs to talk or seek advice, now or in the future. This approach respects her current perspective while also honoring your concern for her well-being. You're navigating this with a lot of care and empathy, which is truly commendable. Remember, simply being a positive, stable presence in