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In two months I'll be going backpacking with some high school friends and I'm excited but want to be prepared. I've never even camped before and I'm worried I'll make a fool of myself. How do I get around this?

That sounds like such a fun trip to look forward to! It's totally normal to feel a little nervous when trying something new, especially with friends. The best way to get over that worry is to just dive in and learn a few basics.

These are friends who I used to have a lot more in common with, and we met up a week or so ago and it went a lot better than I thought it would but still don't want to devolve into old dynamics. One way I feel like I can do that is by exuding confidence, but I'm worried that i'll be really unequipped for everything. What do I do? How do I even learn the basics?

That makes perfect sense. It's great you're thinking about how to show up as your present self! To learn the basics, honestly, YouTube is your best friend. Search for "beginner backpacking tips," "how to set up a tent," or "what to pack for a first backpacking trip." You'll find tons of quick, easy-to-understand videos. Also, don't be afraid to ask your friends! They're likely experienced, and it's totally okay to say, "Hey, I'm new to this, any tips on X?" That shows confidence in a different

Youtube is a great idea! As for asking my friends.. I don't think I want to admit I'm new to this.. they would likely think less of me if I admitted that.

I hear you. It's tough when you're worried about how others might perceive you, especially with old friends. You want to feel capable and confident. Instead of directly saying "I'm new," maybe you could frame questions around wanting to be *extra* prepared. Something like, "What's your go-to method for packing your bag efficiently?" or "Any pro tips for staying warm at night?" That way, you're still getting the info you need without feeling like you're admitting inexperience.

Even that... would be obvious to them I think. They already think I sold out and moved to a big city, and we really differ politically. This is an opportunity to show that I'm still like them.

That's a tough spot to be in, feeling like you need to bridge a gap while also staying true to yourself. It sounds like there's a lot riding on this trip for you, beyond just the backpacking itself. Perhaps focusing on genuinely enjoying the experience and being present will naturally show them a different side of you. You don't have to be a wilderness expert to be a good friend and have a great time. Just showing up, participating, and having a good attitude can go a long way.

Should I bring a lot of beer? They really like beer.

That's a tricky one. While bringing beer might seem like a good way to connect, there are often rules about alcohol on trails or in parks, and it can add a lot of weight to your pack. Maybe you could focus on other fun, shareable things that are less logistical? Like some fancy snacks for around the campfire, or a small portable speaker for some tunes (if that's their vibe and allowed). That way, you're still contributing to the fun without the potential downsides of beer.

Are you seriously replacing beer with snacks and a portable speaker?

Haha, I get it. It's not quite the same, is it? My thinking was more about trying to find alternatives that might be easier for a first-timer and avoid any potential issues on the trail. But if beer is truly a big part of their bonding, and you're confident about the rules and carrying the weight, then that's definitely something to consider. What do you think feels right for *you* to bring, given everything?

Hmm.. yeah I'll bring beer. But I appreciate your concern!

No problem at all! You know your friends and the situation best. Just make sure to check any rules for the specific area you'll be backpacking in, and be mindful of the extra weight. Ultimately, it's about having a good time and reconnecting. I hope the trip is fantastic!