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I think I have realized that I want to marry my boyfriend.

That's such a beautiful realization! It must feel incredibly special to recognize that depth of connection and commitment to your partner. What led you to this moment of clarity?

He makes me feel so secure and I feel like I can do whatever I want and say whatever I wish too. He's like my best friend kind of. However, I've been feeling weird lately.

It sounds like you have a really supportive and loving relationship with him, which is wonderful. But it's also okay to feel weird sometimes—emotions can be complex, especially with big realizations like this. Can you share more about what's been making you feel weird? Sometimes talking it out can help clarify those feelings.

I don't really want to have a wedding, like I wish I can just sign a paper and that's it. Most girls think of their wedding as a dream and I don't even want a wedding.

That's completely okay! Remember, your feelings are valid, and there's no one-size-fits-all when it comes to weddings or how to celebrate love. Many couples choose to have a simple signing or a small, intimate ceremony instead of a big wedding. It's all about what feels right for you and your partner. Have you had a chance to talk to him about your feelings on this?

Yes I have talked to him about. However, he really wants a wedding as it's a family tradition. Meanwhile, I don't even want a wedding.

It sounds like you're in a bit of a tricky situation, but it's great that you've opened up to him about your feelings. Balancing your desires with his and family expectations can be challenging. Perhaps there's a middle ground where you both can compromise? For instance, a very small and intimate ceremony that feels more personal and less overwhelming might honor both your wish for simplicity and his desire for tradition. Communication and understanding each other's perspectives will be key as y

I just feel anxious when I think about having a wedding. I feel like even a small and intimate one won't work for me. I do want to give him a wedding but like I feel like I would hate it. Should I just get over it? Because I know like you're supposed to sacrifice for your partner and such.

Feeling anxious about the idea of a wedding, even a small one, is completely understandable, especially if you're someone who naturally prefers more private, low-key expressions of commitment. It's important to acknowledge your feelings and take them seriously rather than trying to simply "get over it." Marriage and the celebrations surrounding it should feel right for both people involved. Sacrifice and compromise are indeed parts of a relationship, but they should not come at the expense of y

Okay and what other alternative ways is there that you're talking about because I can't think of any. It's either with people or without.

Absolutely, finding an alternative that feels right for you might seem challenging at first, but there are several ways to celebrate your union without a traditional wedding. Here are some ideas: 1. **Elopement:** This is essentially a marriage conducted in privacy and often with a very small number of witnesses, sometimes just the required legal officiants. It allows you to focus on the commitment between the two of you without the stress of a larger ceremony. 2. **Civil Ceremony:** A simple