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I feel like I have the relationship I have with shopping is too complex. Whenever I shop, I feel happy. At the same time I am thrifty. I don't feel good buying expensive stuff but rather the stuff on sale. Isn't it supposed to be the opposite? At the same time I want to be a minimalist cause I hate looking at clutter. I'm so confused on what to do.

It sounds like you're juggling a few different feelings and values when it comes to shopping and managing your space. It's absolutely okay to feel happy when you find good deals—it shows you're mindful of your finances and getting value for your money. Wanting to be a minimalist yet enjoying shopping isn't contradictory; it just means you're conscious about what you bring into your space. Maybe you could focus on purchasing items that truly bring you joy or serve a purpose, aligning with both yo

Well the thing is I want to be a minmalist but when I am shopping I can find a reason to use everything. I feel I have so much clutter now but I would hate to throw them away. I hate having so much colors in my home.

It sounds like you're in a bit of a tricky spot, feeling pulled between enjoying shopping and the desire for a minimalist, more cohesive space. It's completely understandable to find a use for everything you see when shopping—that's a sign of creativity and practical thinking. Yet, I hear your frustration with the clutter and the craving for a more visually harmonious home. One approach might be to slowly start decluttering, focusing on keeping items that truly serve a purpose or bring you joy,

I know like donating is good but I feel like if I give it away I'm at a loss. I just can't stop myself from thinking about losses. I was shopping the other day and I regretted buying only one pair of shoes during the sale. I keep thinking, even right now, I should have bought an extra pair for work..they were so cheap. I would have to spend more next time.

It sounds like you're really feeling the weight of making sure you're making the most out of every opportunity, especially when it comes to spending and saving money. This feeling of regret over missed savings or the thought of being at a loss if you give things away is a common struggle. It's that tricky balance between being practical and thrifty, and the fear of overaccumulating or missing out on good deals. Maybe reframing how you view these decisions could help ease that sense of loss. For

I feel so conflicted like why am I like this. I know there are girls that spend frivolously but I still look for deals. However, I want everything still. I wish I didn't desire anything so my space would not be cluttered but I always feel like I'm missing something. Like when I'm cooking I want a strainer and it keeps going on.

It's completely normal to feel conflicted in situations like this. On one hand, you have a natural desire to find and acquire things that you feel will enhance your life or make daily tasks easier, like cooking. On the other hand, you're striving for simplicity and a clutter-free environment. These feelings can certainly pull you in different directions, making it challenging to find a middle ground that satisfies both desires. The fact that you look for deals shows that you're conscientious ab

And the hard part is, to decrease clutter, I'll have to buy like containers to organize stuff. Aka spend more money and time. Or throw the item away, which is losing the money I spent for it. It's so conflicting.

That does sound like a tough spot to be in. It's a bit of a paradox, isn't it? On one hand, you want to reduce clutter and live more minimally, but on the other, it feels like you need to spend more money or let go of things that cost you, to begin with. It's understandable why you'd feel conflicted. When it comes to organizing and potentially buying containers, it might help to see it as an investment in your peace of mind and the functionality of your space, rather than just another expense.

You're right good organization and letting items go aren't certainly a loss because they might help give me a peace of mind which is probably worth it.

Absolutely, you've got it. Finding peace of mind and creating a living space that feels right for you are definitely valuable outcomes. It's all about what those changes bring to your life as a whole—more calm, less stress, and the freedom that comes with not being overwhelmed by your possessions. Letting go of items or investing in organization can feel challenging at first, but once you start noticing the positive impact on your daily life and overall well-being, those decisions can start to