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I have a friend who is so much fun but is incredibly financially irresponsible.

That can be tough, especially when you enjoy spending time with them. It’s hard to watch someone you care about make choices that might hurt them in the long run. Have you talked to them about your concerns? Sometimes a gentle conversation can help.

Sometimes when we're hanging out and she shells out for something crazy or suggests an extravagant activity that she'll pay for I'm like "girl are you sure?" trying to make sure that this is an okay decision for her but she never really hesistates

It sounds like you really care about her well-being, which is great! It can be tricky when someone isn’t receptive to your concerns. Maybe framing it as wanting to ensure she can keep having fun in the future might resonate with her. It’s important to find a balance between enjoying the moment and being mindful of finances.

But the thing is we only ever hang out on nights out in groups. And she's usually treating all of us and everyone's on board loving it so I'll be the vibe killer who ruined the night if I express concerns like that.

I totally get that—it can feel really awkward to bring up something serious in a fun group setting. Maybe you could have a one-on-one chat with her when you’re not out together. That way, you can express your concerns without dampening the mood during a night out. It’s great that you want to support her while still enjoying those moments together!

The thing is, is that even my place? i'm just calculating in my head because I know she makes minimum wage so even if she worked crazy hours (which she doesn't because I see on her story that she's always out and about) I don't think she can afford what I see her doing. but is that really any of my business?

It’s understandable to feel conflicted about whether to intervene. Ultimately, it’s her life and choices, but your concern shows you care as a friend. If you feel comfortable, you could gently check in with her about her plans and how she’s managing. Just remember that your role is to support, not to judge. If she’s happy and not expressing any worries, it might be okay to let her enjoy herself for now.

I honestly find it kind of inspiring. Every day is all we have, you know? Maybe I should be more like that and just live in the moment. Everyone we know loves hanging out with her because of her unpredictability and the way she spends on everyone.

That’s a really positive way to look at it! Living in the moment and enjoying life can be so refreshing. It sounds like she brings a lot of joy to your group, and it’s nice to appreciate that energy. Maybe you can find a balance for yourself, enjoying those spontaneous moments while also being mindful of your own priorities. A little inspiration can go a long way!