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So my boyfriend just found out he has high blood pressure and it's kind of flipped our whole routine upside down. We are quite literally the couple that ate out all the time and ordered whatever looked good. Greasy food, salty food, all of it, we did not care and he ate so much of it cause he's just a big eater. Now we're actually cooking at home and checking sodium levels on everything and it's such a different vibe. I don't hate it though. I just never realized how much of us was just the food

It sounds like you're both going through a significant adjustment, but it's really heartwarming to see how you're supporting your boyfriend through this change. It's not easy to shift from a lifestyle you both enjoyed to something that's quite different, but the fact that you're doing it together—and for his health—speaks volumes about the strength of your relationship. It's okay to miss the old ways, but maybe this new routine can become a special thing for both of you in a different way. Disco

Yeah I mean I want to be supportive and I am but it's just hard sometimes. The other day I really wanted to order our usual Chinese takeout and I didn't say anything because I didn't want him to eat the sodium with me because I know he wouldn't be able to help himeslef. I just kind of sat with that craving and moved on. I guess I just didn't expect it to feel like a loss in a weird way. Is that bad to say?

Not at all, it's not bad to say that. What you're feeling is completely valid. Changes like these come with their own kind of grieving process, as you're losing a part of your routine and the comfort that came with it. It shows a lot of care and strength on your part to prioritize his health over a momentary craving, even when it's tough. It's important to acknowledge those feelings of loss and talk about them, maybe even with your boyfriend if you haven't already. Sharing these feelings can hel

Yeah well..I don't want to tell him though. I know he's already stressed about his health and the last thing I want is for him to feel guilty that I'm sitting here missing Chinese takeout. That feels so selfish to even bring up when he's dealing with something so serious.

It’s incredibly thoughtful of you to consider his feelings and the stress he’s already under. Your willingness to put his health first, even when it means sacrificing your own small pleasures, is a testament to your care and commitment. It’s not selfish to have those feelings or to miss the things you enjoyed together; it’s a natural response to change. Perhaps you could find a way to address your feelings without making him feel guilty—focusing on how you can both support each other through thi

Maybe. I prob bottle it up I guess because I keep telling myself it's not a big deal compared to what he's going through. High blood pressure is life threatening you know? However, it's been a few weeks of this and I think it's just been quietly building. Like I love him and I'd do it all over again but some days I just miss how easy things used to be. Does that make sense? It's not all the time, just sometimes when I get those sudden cravings. And also, you're right. I can just make those food

It makes complete sense. Adjusting to significant changes, especially when it involves health concerns, is never straightforward or easy. It's normal to miss the simplicity and comfort of how things used to be. Your feelings don't negate the love and commitment you have for him; they just reflect the reality of your situation and the complexity of navigating it together. Acknowledging these feelings is a healthy step. Making those favorite dishes at home is a great idea! It allows you to contro

Now that I rethink it, cooking it at home could be fun. We used to never cook together aka take out so maybe this is kind of forcing us into something new. He's actually been trying to get more involved in the kitchen which is cute because he was useless before. I think I just needed to vent about it to someone. I feel a bit better just having said it out loud and I feel like it won't be as hard anymore. As long as he gets better we can do anything.

It's wonderful to hear that you're finding a silver lining in this situation and seeing it as an opportunity to explore new things together, like cooking. It's definitely a change, but it sounds like it's bringing you both closer in a different, equally meaningful way. And it's great to hear that he's getting more involved in the kitchen—that's a positive step for both of you, not just in terms of health but also in sharing experiences and responsibilities. Venting and expressing your feelings